'Bapela let our kid die'
MAMELODI Sundowns assistant coach Alex Bapela's paramour Bongi Nomathumba has accused him of being a rotten father.
DISTRAUGHT MOM: Bongi Nomathumba is broken hearted. Picture by Vathiswa RuseloThis after the 10-month-old love child Bapela sired with her died of a heart ailment last week.
Nomathumba and her daughter missed an important doctor's appointment due to their failure to travel to Gauteng.
This, Nomathumba says, was because the former footie refused to buy her a bus ticket to take the sickly tyke to the Steve Biko Academic Hospital in Pretoria for an appointment on March 13.
Bapela ignored our calls and failed to respond to questions SMSed to him. Nomathumba says Bapela initially agreed to buy her the ticket but changed his mind at the 11th hour.
Pouring out her broken heart to Sunday World, Nomathumba says she set off for her Mthatha home in the Eastern Cape last month after quitting her job to look after their violently ill child.
She says she couldn't afford to live in Kempton Park with no income.
Before she left for Eastern Cape, Nomathumba phoned Bapela and asked him to buy her a bus ticket to return to Gauteng so she could take the child to hospital for her scheduled check up.
She says Bapela agreed.
But Nomathumba says the former Sundowns midfielder gave her the cold shoulder when she called him a few days before the planned trip, leaving her stranded in the Eastern Cape.
After missing the date with her doctors, the child fell ill and died of cardiac complications on Friday. She was buried in Mthatha on Sunday last week.
"My child is dead and I think Alex will be happy as this is what he wanted.
"I left Joburg and went back home because I was unable to sustain myself after quitting my job to look after my sickly child.
"I informed him about this and he agreed to help me.
"The doctors were supposed to have reviewed the child's heart condition because they wanted to perform another operation on her.
"But we missed the appointment because when I phoned him to remind him to buy me the ticket he told me to take the child to a local hospital. I told him that would be dangerous as my child's file was in Pretoria and doctors there knew her medical history.
"He simply dropped the phone on me," she says.
Bongi says the trouble started on Thursday when the child started showing flu-like symptoms and her body temperature shot up.
"I then phoned an ambulance, which took her to Nelson Mandela Academic Hospital. The doctors there told me there was too much fluid around the child's heart and took her to the ICU.
"She died on Friday," says Bongi, crying copiously.
Bongi says Bapela will be happy now that their child is dead because "it was a monkey on his back", she says.
"He didn't even say anything when I told him the child had passed on.
"She wouldn't have died had he bought that ticket, which is a fraction of what he earns at Sundowns.
"May my child rest in peace and God be with Alex."
- malatjin@sundayworld.co.za
Comments
Sizwe_M
Im sorry for your loss Sisi, My deepest condolences to you and your family.With that said; the child did receive medical treatment and you have not indicated if the doctors agree with your assertion. Since well you did take your child to an academic hospital I do not believe the doctors in Pretoria could have acted any better than the ones at NMA. So in your quest for closure and healing please do not take yourself through this meaningless blame game it will only serve to hurt you more. I wish you well in your future endeavours and may you overcome this hurtful chapter in your life.
Heavenonearth
Sizwe I must say I 'm quite impressed with your philosophical advice. This is well said, this poor woman needs to pray. She needs to focus on moving on, yes it won't be easy but harbouring bitter emotions and trying so hard to slander Bapela won't bring closure nor peace. Sorry sisi.kudi
@NOMMY@Heavenonearth
you two do you live in this world- you talk as if you are angels
maditaba
Condolences to the lady and her family.But such a seriously sick child not going to survive a bus trip from PE to Pretoria.
Papage
Sad story, I feel your pain Sister, and hope this will be a lesson to other wonna be wifes.girlfriends to famous soccer stars. We need to think before comiting to things that will change our lives for ever. Your daughter is at the better place now, let her soul rest in peace. Learn to move on and never again do the same mistake, because tomorrow we will be seing you with the very same man you are rubishing on the paper, and you will be singing a different tune.skororo
sori mum abt yr loss she innnocent bt next time dont ever depend on a men 4 yr child u should do something as u know mmago ngwana o swara thipa kabogaleng,Khensani_CharlesMaluleka
Sad story ngempela, your child is in a better place now Sisi. May her soul rest in peace.fesco
eish. footballersw are used to dribbling. let the kid rip madamTHANDY
MAY DE SOUL OF YR CHILD REST IN PEACE. NEXT TIME NEVER QUIT YR JOB, TRY HIRING A HELPER BECAUSE MEN CAN NEVER B TRUSTED WHETHER MARRIED OR NOT, U CAN ONLY TRUST YR SELF THAT U WONT LET YRSELF DOWN. AGAIN IM SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO SORI FOR YOUR LOST, TIME IS THE BEST HEALER.ayobaness20
Im so sorry for the death of the child, but what I dont understand is why people run to the media when thing go wrong. When u have a child and not maried, u must know u a e single mom. If cant afford to be single mom, go to the clinic #freee#.Read all 12 comments