Sweet words of illicit love - 'Mr SA' first prince wrecked my family
IMAGINE this poor man's shock and disappointment.
He's bought his beloved wife a bunch of flowers to celebrate her promotion and is putting in time helping her to transfer all the info on her computer to a new laptop and cellphone - and he comes across declarations of love between her and her secret lover.
The alleged guilty party is Mr South Africa first runner-up Zane Mandisi Maqetuka.
It is alleged the "first prince" is having an affair with customary law wife Ntomboxolo "Ntombs" Duka.
The husband asked not to be named.
The Cape Town-based budding filmmaker and model, originally from Graaff-Reinet, Eastern Cape, is understood to have been seeing Duka since 2009, before Duka met her hubby.
But it seems they hadn't had enough of each other as they continued to meet and exchange sweet messages.
During an interview with Sunday World at their home this week, Duka apologised and promised to work things out with her man.
Duka and her husband say they have been undergoing counselling.
Duka, who has an 11-month old baby with her current partner, says she last saw Maqetuka in March this year, the day after he was crowned South Africa's second best man.
She confessed that she took him to their home in Randpark Ridge, west of Joburg.
"It was the first and last time I had seen him since 2010," she said.
Ironically, the husband stumbled upon Duka's infidelity in the course of helping her.
She had been promoted from call centre regional manager to human resources manager at mining conglomerate Anglo American.
In order to wish her well for her new appointment, the unsuspecting husband bought her a bouquet of flowers.
And he was helping Duka transfer and back up her work files from an old laptop to the new one and her BlackBerry phone when he stumbled upon compromising pictures of the two. He also found e-mail and BBM messages on her work e-mail and BlackBerry.
An e-mail from Maqetuka to Duka, sent on May 12 2010, read: "I am not sure what happened but if you are busy it's ok then.
"We can [chat] later my baby coz I am bit busy as well over here.
"I am keeping our candle of love and trust and loyalty and happiness between us burning. Therefore no outside force can penetrate what I have with you."
Duka responded: "I love you my baby."
In another e-mail, Maqetuka is giving his girlfriend advice about her car problems after she told him she had received a quotation for damages to her BMW totalling more than R41000.
In another one, interestingly, she invited him to a seminar titled "How deep is your love: A seminar on how to break relationship addiction" where an expert was going to talk about how to handle attachment in relationships.
The seminar was set for Maponya Mall in Soweto on May 15 this year.
Duka forwarded the invite to Maqetuka and wrote: "Hey luv, I have two invites for this weekend and think will attend both. Here isoneand the next will follow."
A rattled Duka says the sultry pictures were taken at Maqetuka's home in Eastern Cape, but refuses to disclose the date of the "shoot".
"They were taken at his grandmother's house in Graaff- Reneit. Zane and I are homeboys.
"We come from the same small town in Eastern Cape," she says.
The pictures show the two lovebirds cuddling together, both in bed and on a couch.
In another explicit image, Maqetuka is seemingly measuring his "baby's" behind with his hefty open hand.
The heart-broken hubby, out of anger and frustration, wrote a letter to the organisers of Mr South Africa on Thursday:
"I'm appalled that Mr SA Pageant supports and encourages its participants and members to break up other people's families.
"One of your contestants, first runner-up, Zane Mandisi Maqetuka, has destroyed my family, as I discovered on my wife's phone this morning.
"I have graphic pictures of them, e-mail communication between the two and a picture of BBM messages that passed ... between them.
"He destroyed my marriage.
"I have an 11-month old daughter with my wife; she shares the same birthday as me."
Maqetuka could not be reached for comment by the time of going to press.
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Comments
JFK
what a sad story,my advice to all married men out there make sure that , you empower yourself througt education so that you are able to stand on your own in the event that you seperate from
your wife if she is cheating on you , so that you would be able devorce her immediately not try
retaliate to her secret lover becuase he did not force himself to her:
truthshallsetyoufree
This story has been proven false in court! http://www.presscouncil.org.za/Ruling/View/zane-maqethuka-vs-sunday-world-2370It's terrible that they still have it online, they should really take it offline. Very very unprofessional!
thaboza.motsamai23
It seems the apology was for irresponsible journalism and the press ombudsman is not a court. Cheating destroys. I have worked with Ntomb's b4 and all I can say is she needs deliverance. I would advise the husband to take her to a Christian church for spiritual deliverance. The devil attacks marriages and the devil doesn't have horns,it may be beautiful or handsome.Takutine
So what has Mr SA Pageant has anything to do with your wife's infidelity? You are hurt yes, but do not direct it to anyone, its your wife's responsibility to be faithful to you, deal with her.kudi
Honestly why doesn't he face his wife - what if Mr SA did not know that she is marriedranger.da.danger
CUM ON LETS FACE IT, DA DUDE S UP AGAINST A MALE MODEL AND A FILMMAKER, LOL OBVIOSLY HES A HUNK SO I DNT BLAME DA HUSBND HE DID WAT ANY DESPERATE DUDE IN A SIMILAR SITUATION WOULD.Nzumbululo
A vehicle without a spare wheel is bound to be grounded on its journey.misscm02
Mr SA pageant shudn't be held liable 4 things that happen outside the pageantry. I she was 1 of da judges we wud understand but she aint, so manu up n let her go! the baby is bound to grow up knowing that u r her father if in fact u r!!!!!!!!!OWAMIBO
i totally agree missGodsdesign
What were you thinking woman? Why did you get married at the first place knowing you cannot keep your legs closed? Stupid fool.This husband is also foolish, why go and publish it at the Sowetan Newspaper???? Now everyone knows that your wife is bonking by different men. Improve your performance bro.
gerald.king
Foolish husband? Manybe not.I hope she found out he knows on the paper, graphics n all. Classic!
MacansiZulu
This woman is beautiful but she has proved to be a disgrace. I am feeling sorry for the handsome husband (pic 4). I would suggest a paternity test since chances are more that the 11 month old baby girls is Maqetuka's daughter (By the look of things on the published photos Maqetuka was doing it for Ntombs compared to the real husband)legendarybenedictoholic
i don't have time for the counselling bulls**t. you cheat me, i find out, you ship out. life is too short to be wasted on counselling with someone who is still at her adolescent stage.RoughRider
dude you married a btch its not your fault, throw her out and move on with your life. this sht happens all the time and its the end yo world. the kid will be jst fine, don't stay with the btch for the sake of yo kid
RoughRider
correction: this sht happens all the time and it's not the end of yo world.Bobodlwane
i dont think that 11 month old child is urs papa. DNA test is what you needlillianm
you have life to leave do not stress about this prostitute just go for idna test before ugqoka ijazi kushisa if you dont act now tou are a dead manHappym
Cry baby of a husband. Telling the whole world your wife is having a good time elswhere. Act like a man. A real man not makhalanjalo.Boring.Read all 32 comments