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 No man should wear make-up; that is just gay |
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There are certain things that will never be acceptable in society - and waiting for a man to get ready is one them |
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The modern man has taken it upon himself to look good, clean and presentable. He has no problem spending money on his personal grooming. Some ladies are drawn to him but others are put off by his well-groomed nature...
This what what the ladies had to say:
THE LADIES
Name: Kemong Mopedi
Age: 26
Most women are finding it hard to draw the distinction between a metrosexual and a gay man. Do you agree?
Not necessarily. Yes, both metrosexual and gay men take care of themselves excessively or rather in a way that our society does not expect men to, but I know how to spot a gay man. The differences between the two types of men are usually their personalities and their dress sense. I connected with the gay friends that I have now just after two seconds of meeting with them [chuckles]
What to you is acceptable and where do you draw the line?
Appreciate a man with good skin so I wouldn’t mind him going for a facial every once in a while. But no manicures and pedicures please, because I would feel the pressure to also do the same and my schedule does not allow for such hectic grooming. Having said that it doesn’t mean that I don’t appreciate a clean man; can he just not look cleaner than me?
Do you encourage a man to visit a beauty spa for personal grooming? Would you go accompany him?
On a rare occasion, yes. If it’s his birthday or if he has just come out of a bad patch in his life, then he’s more than welcome to treat himself to a bit of personal grooming (emphasis on the word bit); in fact I’ll even pay for him.
How long do you think a man must take to get ready and what is acceptable? Is it a problem when you have to wait for him to finish getting ready while you patiently wait to be taken out on a date?
45 minutes maximum (assuming that his clothes will be ironed and ready). If it’s an hour and more, then I’ll start thinking that perhaps he’s competing with me. I don’t enjoy sharing the mirror with anyone else. It would be a problem if I had to wait for him to get ready, who’s the woman in the relationship?
Name: Busisiwe Gama
Age: 26
Most women are finding it hard to draw the distinction between a metrosexual and a gay man. Do you agree?
Yes
What to you is acceptable and where do you draw the line?
I appreciate a man who takes care of himself period…it’s ok for him to go shave his hair off at the beauty salon, do a manicure, go wow about colognes, go for facials…etc, where I draw the line is when he starts acting like me when I’m with my girls, then I’ll start worrying..LOL
Do you encourage a man to visit a beauty spa for personal grooming? Would you go accompany him?
Of course, but nay I won’t accompany him…I think he can handle that on his own
How long do you think a man must take to get ready and what is acceptable? Is it a problem when you have to wait for him to finish getting ready while you patiently wait to be taken out on a date?
30 min max, me waiting for him to finish... it’s a NO, NO!!! Remember I’m the woman, so there should be a difference.
Name: Lebohang Nthongoa
Age: 30
Most women are finding it hard to draw the distinction between a metrosexual and a gay man. Do you agree?
I think that men with money can be metrosexual in a way that doesn’t come off as gay, but women want someone who is outright dude, rugged and not more polished than me.
What to you is acceptable and where do you draw the line?
I don’t mind if the guy grooms, but a bigger budget than mine to groom might be problematic. And going with me to the salon is not on. If he wants the spa experience, do it with the other dudes at the country club or something.
Do you encourage a man to visit a beauty spa for personal grooming? Would you go accompany him?
I wouldn’t mind him grooming at a spa, but a man who grooms with women is gay!
How long do you think a man must take to get ready and what is acceptable? Is it a problem when you have to wait for him to finish getting ready while you patiently wait to be taken out on a date?
I’m not one of those girls who take forever getting ready, so any given person would easily take longer than me, so I really wouldn’t hold it against him. But I draw the line at over 20 minutes, just because I’m impatient, especially if it’s making me late for something!
Name: Mammone Manyapye
Age: 26
Most women are finding it hard to draw the distinction between a metrosexual and a gay man. Do you agree?
There is definitely a fine line between metrosexual and gay but I haven’t had a problem making the distinction. For me a metrosexual man is a man who celebrates his looks and takes good care of his appearance and image, but still acts, thinks and carries himself like a man.
What to you is acceptable and where do you draw the line?
As long as he does not tweeze his eyebrows, eye liners or nail polish. No man should wear make-up; that is just gay.
Do you encourage a man to visit a beauty spa for personal grooming? Would you go accompany him?
Absolutely. Gone are those days when a man needed to look scruffy to be considered a man. The world has evolved and we are living in a world where people are seen as brands. I believe everyday in our interactions, we are selling our own brand therefore I encourage more men to take care of their image.
How long do you think a man must take to get ready and what is acceptable? Is it a problem when you have to wait for him to finish getting ready while you patiently wait to be taken out on a date?
There are certain things that will never be acceptable in society - and waiting for a man is one them. A woman should never have to wait for a man to get ready; if he makes you wait then maybe he has crossed the line from metrosexual to gay. The bottom line is a man should take care of his image but shouldn’t be obsessed about his looks. Metrosexual for me is taking care of your image but obsessing about your looks is vain and chances are he is gay.
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